Love Unconditionally

This is a photo of my Mom and Dad a long time ago. But they had a great marriage and strong love. They had a Relationship for Life until my dad passed away in 2008. I wrote a book in the honor of my dad and the life he lead, it is called Mills Way to Richer Living. He did what relationship excerpts and marriage prep classes tell you to do he put my my number one in his life. She was above us kids, his job, his hobbies, his folks and brothers and sisters. That is what you will learn from relationship experts and marriage prep classes but people sometimes lose focus on this.

Also he loved my mom for who she was, what she thought, what she did. He didn’t ever tried to change her or complain to her. He knew criticism does not have a place in a positive relationship. It usually is a symptom of one person trying to change another person to meet their own standards. By criticizing your spouse or your friends you send them a very clear message that you are not acceptable the way they are.

You, however, do not make the rules about what is acceptable. Your goal should be to learn to accept their differences and appreciate what makes them unique without trying to make them more like you. When I was growing up my father was a wonderfully positive role model. He never nagged or complained about anything. I’m sure at times it was hard for him to bite his tongue, but he never let us know about it. We always felt accepted and loved for who we were and what we were doing.

So how do you show your spouse, kids, relatives and friends how much you love them. Do you Honor them or do you try to change them. I say we need to appreciate them and be grateful for our relationships with them. Show them how much you appreciate them and try not to nag or complain about anything. As Gary Smalley says “Dead Bolt your Mouth”. What great advice. Show your Spouse , Girlfriend or Boyfriend that they are number one in your life over all others and see how your relationship grows even stronger.

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Creating your Destiny

We can create our Destiny by using our Minds and showing effort. Effort is so important in anything we do in life. For instance if you don’t show any effort at work, how successful will you be? If you don’t show any effort in your relationships, how successful will they be? If you don’t show any effort towards staying healthy, how healthy will you be? So with the power of your mind and putting effort towards your destiny anything is possible. Here is a theory called T.I.F.B.R.D or The Equation of the Mind. Devin Hastings introduced it to me. This theory helps explain how the mind operates so you can understand the importance of our thoughts and how we talk to ourselves.

The Equation of the Mind

T = Thought. The frequency of our thoughts leads to an image and converts that image into a feeling.

I = Image. A picture is worth a thousand words.

F = Feeling. Strong enough feelings lead to behaviors.

B = Behavior. The right behaviors produce positive results.

R = Results. With enough results, you create your own destiny.

D = Destiny. Believe in who you are!

As you can see, whenever you have a thought or picture in your mind, is worth a thousand words. It is so important to think positive thoughts and have positive images of yourself and your life.

A friend of mine kept talking about all the negative things that could happen in his life and complained a lot. It ended up causing his relationship to end. It is amazing how you can talk yourself into something when you really don’t want it to happen because you may not know how to talk positive to yourself and others. I went to see Gary Smalley a few years ago at a two day seminar and they first hour or so he spent on “Dead Bolting our Mouths”. What a good thing for us to do if we don’t have anything positive to say about ourselves or others. Try it for 30 days just saying positive things only to yourself and others and see how you will feel after 30 days and how your relationships may have changed over the time. People like to have fun and be around fun people, not people that bring them down.

Let me know your thoughts or ideas. Also please join my facebook and linkedin using my email at
bruce@millsway.com. Also follow me at twitter: Bruce Mills at millsway_com. Follow me on the following sites also: Plaxo.com. Selfgrowth.com. Youtube.com. Ted.com. Google Buzz. Tumblr.com. Digg.com. Also follow me on reddit.com and Stumbleupon.com. Check out my products that could help you and if you are in need of a Life Coach drop me a e-mail. Have a great day.